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Let’s get down and dirty with self sabotage

By | Health, Mindset
Let’s get down and dirty with self sabotage

Self sabotage can do a doozy on us when it comes to food & health goals, and thyroid recovery requires a lot of self commitment.

So how can you tackle self sabotage?

I don’t think there is anyone who hasn’t experienced that little voice convincing them to abandon their commitment to their health.

You might find yourself eating the birthday cake at the office party when you’ve committed to not eating gluten for autoimmunity.

Or eating a whole bag of corn chips when all you really needed was a handful.

Maybe you are a chronic Monday-morning-er, forever putting off your own health needs for another day.

Why do we do it to ourselves?


Fear of the Unfamiliar

Each one of us have 3 basic needs (once food, water and shelter are taken care of!). They are:

  • Love
  • Safety
  • Belonging.

When our subconscious mind realises that we are making changes, it freaks out and worries that one of these needs will be compromised.

Self-sabotaging behaviours stem from the concern that if you change, one of these needs will no longer be met. It’s the fear of the unfamiliar, which is a very human fear.

Food FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)
We fear that we’ll never be able to eat the food that tickle our tastebuds ever again.

I think we all know that this simply isn’t true and in many ways this becomes a scapegoat mask with one of the other two base fears above hiding behind it.

When you apply a balanced approach, you can and will enjoy celebratory foods at special occasions without sabotaging your results.

I’ve said it hundreds of times but I’ll say it again, you do not have to be a food nun to get extraordinary results.

This thinking really stems from a deprivation & dieting approach where food is bland and you have to stick to it forever or you reverse your results (thanks weight watchers!).

You also learn to luxuriate in the flavours that nature provides.

One of my incredible clients was telling me recently how the sweet & sour pork that was always her favourite take away is no longer appealing, her palate has changed.

Another client said this about my Metabolic Balance coaching…

“Everything feels balanced so that when you want to have a treat with your kids or with your friends, you can! I’ve been describing it as the easiest, simplest way that I’ve ever lost weight or improved my health since I was probably 25.”
– Rachael

Fear of Success
No, that’s not a typo!

Fear of success is another very real (arguably the most common) reason we sabotage our efforts.

What will you have to face or do differently if you finally succeed? Will your relationships change? Will you have to do that thing you’ve been forever afraid of?

When we up level one area of our life & wellbeing we can feel pressure and fear the consequences in other areas too.

For some, poor health has become a subconscious victim badge they are reluctant to part with.

For others, their weight gain is an unconscious protective mechanism against romantic or sexual attention.

So, what can you do about it?

  1. Awareness. Bring a gentle awareness & curiosity when these thoughts pop up.
  2. Analyse, what is really going on? With a dose of self awareness you can unmask those fears. Bring them out of the darkness into the light and pull them apart, turn them over, analyse every nook & cranny. Are they really true?
  3. Rewrite the story. Once you have teased apart the fears and removed their power you can craft an affirmation to combat them next time they rear their ugly heads.
    Self sabotaging thought: ‘If I regain my energy then I’ll have no excuse to not start that business I’ve been talking about for years & make it a wild success. If that happens I’ll be exhausted and too busy to spend time with my family. I’ll finally be able to afford that dream car and then my friends will think I’m a snob and won’t like me anymore.’
    Your affirmation might be: ‘I am committed to eating in a way that reignites my energy so I can be present for my family, fulfil my dreams and have no regrets’.

If you want to get down and dirty with your self-sabotage then the two books I recommend are The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks & The War of Art by Steven Pressfield. Hendricks refers to it as the ‘upper limit problem’ and Pressfield as ‘resistance’, but essentially what they are referring to is self sabotage, holding ourselves back from growth.

Self-sabotage is such an issue with my clients that I have a whole step dedicated to it in Food Freedom.

Did you know that all my 1:1 clients get Food Freedom as a gift to help them create powerful habit change and long term success? It’s important to me that all my clients are equipped so they can finally get the incredible results they desire.

You can book a free health chat here if you want to talk more.

A helpful visual

By | Health, Mindset, Whole food

What does a jar have to do with achieving your health goals?

Have you heard of the jar story?

The jar represents our time, our life or even a representation of our day and the sand, pebbles and rocks inside of it can represent our priorities.

Now if we fill it full of sand first, we are going to have a hard time fitting rocks and pebbles (our priorities) inside of it.

So let’s reverse it.

Add in those rocks and pebbles first.

Now these rocks – our priorities – are all the things that are important to us, and can often represent our family, children, partner, religion, or even career.

We then can fit smaller pebbles into the jar, wedging them between the larger rocks. These smaller pebbles are our hobbies, acquaintances, perhaps our job.

Lastly, the sand we pour in acts as the filler of the gaps between our rocks and pebbles. It fits and molds around these bigger priorities, and automatically shifts and adjusts its position if a rock or pebble is moved.

Now the sand is our time spent in between – often this can mean watching TV, cooking, commuting, moving our bodies.

But what I’ve found is that clients who are committed to themselves and who achieve their health goals long term actually view their meals, the cooking of them and the nourishment of their bodies, as a rock rather than the sand that needs to fit around everything else and is often not given much conscious thought.

Food and nourishment is foundational to not only health goals, but to leading a happy and healthy life.

Are you currently looking at your food as a rock or the sand?

Please share this along to someone who may need to reframe their own jar of priorities.

The 5 foundations of radiant health

By | Health, Mindset

*image by Serkan Bayraktar

Well hello!

I’m coming to you from not-so-sunny Byron Bay. After a weekend of anxiety over the invasion of Ukraine I flew to Byron Bay for a work retreat just in time for the worst floods this region has seen in decades. My distress over Ukraine has been eclipsed somewhat by the tragedy unfolding much closer to home. It reminds me of the time my husband, baby son and I were stuck in Christchurch during the earthquake in 2011 knowing that people were trapped so close to us and there was nothing we could do. Heartbreaking.

I was going to write about something completely different in my blog this week but instead I wanted to share about one of my core beliefs when it comes to health.

I believe our heath is built on a foundation of five factors:

  1. Good nourishing food (no surprises there!)
  2. Clean & purified drinking water as nature intended
  3. A safe and clean environment in which to live
  4. Community & belonging
  5. Spiritual health & purpose.

With so many people suffering so close to where I now sit typing in safety and comfort in the heart of boho chic Byron Bay, I’m reminded once again of these five foundational cornerstones and how much each of these are threatened during times of tragedy as we are seeing in Northern NSW and South East Queensland this week.

Naturally, a sense of community and belonging can be strongest at these times when trials draw us closer to one another. A strong sense of belonging can extend a net of protective grace over the physical, emotional and spiritual health of a person just as much as isolation & loneliness can ravage their sense of wellbeing as we saw during lockdowns. In this way, the community factor is arguably the most influential over our health while probably also being the most underestimated.

After two years of division & isolation it is my hope that we can all reconnect with the power of community as we are witnessing in NSW & QLD right now. You might be seeing images of those using their recreational boats to rescue their neighbours & community from roofs and flood waters. In what ways can you lift anchor? What waters can you traverse to reach your family, friends and community to strengthen or reestablish their sense of belonging and safety? Whether you are affected by the flooding or not. Maybe I’m pushing the metaphor too far but we can’t thrive on an island, the wellbeing of your community is yours also.

If I can do anything to support you, let me know.